S: So, Kevin, talk to me. ( Kevin is black).
K: I am frustrated because I have to work with people who are racist.
I just want them to see me, for me.
I need them to just respect me.
They should not jump into conclusions that quickly.
I think it's unfair, despicable.
S: Okay, Kev, lets' see, you are frustrated because you have to work with people who are racist. Is it true?
K: Yes.
S: Can you absolutely know that is true?
K: No.
S: How do you react when you believe that?
K: I get angry, paranoid, I feel like everybody is out to get me, I get very defensive, I hate.
S: So, you become a racist.
K: Well said, Yes. ( he smiles..).
S: See, how by believing your thoughts you become them?. Okay, Kevin how would you be if you didn't believe all that?
K: I would be more at ease, I would be relaxed , more myself.
K: But I feel like I can't.
S: Why?
K: I feel like I am under attack.
S: How are you being attacked?.
K: By the way they talk to me, the kind of question they ask me.
S: Well, Kevin when people ask you question you can just answer them, or not. You don't have to be defensive about it.
K: Yes, but I don't know why I feel like I have to fight back.
S: Who are you fighting?.
K: Them.
S: Well, that happens because you have already assume that "they are trying to get you". If you didn't believe that, they will be nobody to fight. You simply answer or you do not.
S: How do you feel when you believe that "they are trying to get you".
K: I feel like the whole world is out to get me, and I have to fight them all off.
S: Yes, exactly, you make the entire world your enemy. And technically you have already lost this fight, I am sorry but there is over 6 billions of us , one of you , we gotcha.....and there is nothing you can do about it.
K: Yes, that's right.
S: And as you believe that you have to fight the world, how does it feel?
K: Exhausting, oppressing, heavy.
S: Yes, you are wearing the weight of the world on your shoulders. And how do you interact with people as you believe they are all trying to get you.
K: I am distant, cold, snappy.
S: What about trust?
K: Oh, I definitely don't trust them.
S: Exactly, and no trust, no bond, no love.
S: How would you be if you didn't believe that " they are trying to get you".
K: Wow, so lighter, so lighter ....
S: Yes, exactly, are you ready to drop the weight of the world?.
K: Yeah, I really don't like it.
S: Now, let me ask you something, let's say I ask you to work with somebody who is cold, distant, snappy, do not trust you, and is defensive, would like to be around him?
K: No, I see what you are saying.
K: But is it all in my head, though?
S: I don't know them, I haven't met them. All I know is that you are responsible for You, you are responsible for your own state of consciousness, nobody else. They act the way they act, you react the way you react.
S: Okay, next, You just want then to see you. Okay, first they don't see you. Is it true?
K: Yes, I think so.
S: How do you react when you believe that?.
K: I get frustrated, they become those dark people in my mind.
S: So, you don't see them.
(he laughs....)
K: Yes, I can see that.
S: Who else don't you see as you believe that?.
K: I don't know...
S: Well, Yourself , you are not yourself.
K: yes, that's true.
S: So, how would you be if you didn't believe that?.
K: I guess, I would see them and see myself.
S: Yes, to go one step further, it's not our job to see you, it's your job.
K: What do you mean?.
S: I mean you have to see yourself, that's your job, to be fully YOU, if we don't see it, that's fine, you are YOU.
K: I see what you are saying.
S: Okay,next, you need them to just respect you, they don't respect you. Is that true?
K: Now, I can say I don't really know, I have spent so much time fighting them that I truly don't know anymore.
S: But how do you react when you believe that?
K: I don't respect them that's for sure.
S: Can you see how you will respect them if you didn't believe that anymore?.
K: Yes, totally...
S: And Yourself too...
K: Yes, definitely.
S: Next, they should not jump into conclusions... do you see how you do it?
K: Now, I do ..
S: Can you give them some space, allow them to be, a little.
K: Yes, I can , and me too.
S: And finally, was it fair to them and to yourself to create all that animosity?
K: No, totally not.
K: I think I have some perspective now.
S: So, got back to work and enjoy.
K: I'll try.
S: Okay, then.
K: Thanks.
S: you are welcome.
Peace and Love and Thank you for the support.
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