S: So, Harris, what's up.
H: I would put it to you quite easily, why do women like jerks?
S: Okay, women like jerks? Is it true?
H: Yes, it is.
S: Can you absolutely know that's true?
H: No.
S: How do you react when you believe that?
H: I try to act like one, which doesn't work anyway, then I beat myself up because I don't like how it feels , meaning being fake, being a jerk, then I feel small because I feel like I have failed. Get back to me again for a while , but then I do it again.
S: Okay , how would you be if you didn't believe that?.
H: I would just be myself of course, but that doesn't seem to work.
S: Well, first women don't actually like jerks, they simply like people who are themselves, just like men don't just like " bitches", they like people who are themselves. Let me elaborate.
S: What does, who you call " jerk" does that you don't.
H: He is mean to them.
S: Not necessarily, he can also simply be honest with them and be himself. Let me give you an example, you have to study for an important exam tomorrow, and a girl that you like calls you and tell you that you have to come to a party right away. What would you do or say?
H: I would definitely go.
S: That's the problem, who you call "the jerk" , might simply say, " I can't", I have to study to take a very important exam tomorrow, but you know what when you are done there, come over to my place.
S: Can you see the difference ? ...
H: I don't really, he said no, yet I feel like she might go to him anyway.
S: He was simply honest, that's all. You are so caught up in looking for approval that you can't seem to just be honest. Because of the assumption that if I say no, she is not going to like me anymore. And the same will go for " the good girl" , if we reverse the role.
Well, technically, she likes you or she does not, stop looking for so much approval, because as you do, you are simply not yourself. See, what I'm saying.
H: Yeah, I have never seen it like that.
S: Well, she has to be with YOU, right?, but you are not even here since you are too busy looking for approval.
H: That make sense. But I tried being myself first, and it didn't work....That's why after trying over and over again by being myself and seeing that the " jerk" will always get the girl, I decided to become a jerk.
S: Again, what you don't see is that, there is more than " the body" to a relationship. I'm pretty sure that you tried talking to girls who had nothing in common with you, but because they were " hot" , you wanted to go out with them.
H: I guess, that's true.
S: Well, that's why you keep getting rejected, you are not looking to connect, you want to be "cool" or whatever. Look for somebody who is interested in the same things as you and you will see that you can not not be yourself, in those conditions, it just naturally flows and you don't have to try so hard and be somebody you are not, because "you think" it's what they want. See what I'm saying.
H: Yeah, totally.
S: So, all you gotta to do, is find somebody who clicks with you, that's the bond. And stop constantly looking for approval, Be Yourself. Be honest , it is easy, if you want to do something say yes...if you don't, say no... It is that easy, when you are less in the other business worrying about is she going to like it or not etc.....
H: Yeah, I see that. I'll try to do that.
S: Yes, we ( the world ) all want you to simply be YOU, that's all.
H: I'll try and see what happens.
S: Yes, do that.
H: Thanks..
S: You are welcome.
Peace and Love and Thank you for the support.
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